Coaching yourself - or a friend
Become better at getting through problems and find new ways to approach your day. You can coach both yourself and your friends – and they can coach you. Here, you will learn the basics of the coaching method.
Professional coaches have a tool-box of strategies and questions to help their clients. Some of these tools are so simple that you can use them right away with no problem.
It’s a bit like taking a hammer, a nail and a saw at home. With these tools at hand you could put up a wall all on your own, if you got the instructions on how to do it. If you were to do a larger renovation, perhaps you would hire a professional, but much of it you would still handle yourself.
The best tool in a coach’s box is a set of protocols or some starting points that help stimulate a person’s potential. Here are a few examples:
- That which is positive and works well in your life and for your personality are worth elevating, reinforcing and using more often.
- Repetition of behaviours that yield negative results serves no purpose.
- If something doesn't work, try something else.
- Look for the possibilities instead of staring at the problems.
- Find things to do - and get to work.
- The fact that every individual has a unique set of opinions and values, a unique combination of talents as well as a unique store of experiences and abilities is in itself a fantastic asset.
If you learn to apply these protocols you will come a long way with your coaching.
Try as well to identify what it is you want, rather than what you don’t
want. You see, coaching works better if you aims are positively formulated:
- Situation you want to avoid: "I want to feel less stress"
Positive formulation: "I want to feel calmer and make the time suffice". - Situation you want to avoid: "I want to stop eating junk-food"
Positive formulation: "I want to be able to keep to healthy food" - Situation you want to avoid: "I don't want to feel bad at work"
Positive formulation: "I want to feel good at work".
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